**Events are not negative or positive. It is the values we place on those events that make them so.
Anger often results from
feeling someone is treating you unfairly;
feeling that someone is trying to take advantage of you; or
feeling a threat of some sort or loss to self.
**It is our own thoughts that cause anger. We feel angry when we have imposed our expectations and ideals of how someone should be, but they are not what we think they should be.
ANGRY PEOPLE DRIVE
OTHERS AWAY!
In order to take control of the anger one feels, the following exercises can help:
1. Write about a situation that made you angry
2. Write about how it made you feel
3. Write about why it made you feel that way
4. Write about other ways you could have felt if you had viewed things differently or from the other person’s perspective
Identify Your Body’s Anger Signs
Describe how you feel inside when you get angry (i.e., the
physical symptoms such as increased heart rate, sweating, upset stomach, heart
palpitations, sinking feeling, etc.):
Identify Your Actions of Anger
Identify how you act when you feel angry (i.e, I say mean
things to people, I am aggressive toward others, I withdraw into myself, etc.):
Identify Actions That Could Be Taken
Identify actions you can take instead of the anger actions
(I could take a walk, I could say “I feel hurt,” etc.):
**Accept your anger feelings and manage them instead of repressing them, which causes constant bickering.
Identify The Reasons You Have For Not Sharing Your Feelings
Identify The Provocations That Cause You To Feel Anger
Identify Actions You Can Take Toward Preventative Situations
Identify Some of Your Basic Values
Some Unrealistic Expectations Are Formed By Anger
Thoughts:
Others don’t care
People should know better than to
act as they do
Life is unfair
I must never hurt someone or say
what I feel
I must be in control or others
will take advantage of me
Effects:
Sadness = Depression = Negative
anger
Depression can be caused by
distorted beliefs abut one’s self and the world